How To Let Go Of Your Past
“The past is finished. Learn from it and let go.” It sounds so simple. Yet the truth is that letting go of your past is difficult and complicated. To let go of your past you must step outside of your comfort zone, which can cause pain and stress.
The good news? It’s worth it! Letting go of the “baggage” that holds you back in your life is the key to happiness and healing. It allows you to make room for wonderful things to enter your life and for you to find peace in your present life.
Letting go of your past is a process and it doesn’t happen overnight. I invite you to try this process and offer yourself compassion and support as you begin to move on from your past.
The First Steps To Letting Go Of Your Past:
Step 1: Acceptance
It’s essential that you face the reality of your past head on. Often we become experts at ignoring our past and trying to move on from it before we have done this step. You’ll know that this is the case if you struggle with finding peace in your present. The past is in the cells of your body so even if you are an ‘expert’ at not thinking about it and pushing the emotions aside it’s there and it’s affecting your life.
To begin to accept the past start with asking yourself these questions: What’s the reality of my past? What are my perceptions of the past? How do I feel about the past?
Step 2: Feel It Fully
To let go of anything- anger, resentment, sadness, regret- you must feel it fully first. Look at the emotions that you identified in step 1 and allow yourself to feel them. Embrace the pain and be there for yourself to soothe the suffering that you feel. It is important to be there for yourself first before you move on to having compassion and understanding for others involved.
Step 3: Understanding
As human begins it is our job to grow, learn and evolve. Our life, our relationships and our experiences are our classroom and we’re being given lessons all the time. I encourage you to use this step to begin to contemplate the question of, “What was I learning?” This is truly the question that needs to be asked in order to release guilt and regret around past events. As Maya Angelou says, “when you know better, you do better.”
Step 4: Awareness
The last step I’ll address today is becoming aware. Once you’ve moved through the first 3 steps you are now ready to really start moving on. This starts with becoming aware of when your thinking turns to the past. The past is gone and every time you give thought to it you bring it back to the present moment. It is time to deal with the painful thoughts and memories and stop them from hi-jacking your present life and making a home in your mind. In order to do this, you can begin to pay attention and realize when thoughts of the past are creeping into your mind. Then deal with them by saying, “cancel” and replacing the negative thought or memory with a new positive thought. For example: “I let go of past hurt and open my heart to the joy of now.”
These are the first steps of letting go and often they are the steps that are ignored or overlooked. If you want to move on from your past you need to start at the beginning. I’ll write a post next week that will address the final steps in the process: releasing emotions, forgiving yourself and others, believing, and choosing peace within. Remember to be gentle with yourself through the process of letting go.
Beaming you light, love & happiness,
Would you like to go deeper into the first 4 Steps of Letting Go of Your Past? Check out this webinar replay which goes into more details. Webinar: How To Let Go Of Your Past click here to access now link: https://soartoyourhighest.leadpages.net/how-to-let-go-of-your-past-replay/
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